Abraham: Well, how it works is if either one of us don’t get too involved in the details of how we think we want what we want to play out then both of us can be satisfied. If you will focus on the essence of what you want, which is a magnificent crop, and the other will focus on the essence of what they want, which is a lovely picnic today or whatever, the Universe can give them both, or all, what they want, but it’s when you start bickering over the same prize, or over the same specific moment in time… the Universe has the facility to orchestrate circumstances and events to accommodate everyone: there could be two of you wanting seemingly different things, or five billion of you seemingly wanting different things…. and any of you that are not using what the other one wants that you don’t want as your excuse to push against and then disallow yourself from getting what you want, then you could all get what you want.
If you push against the other because you are worried they’ll get it and you won’t, now your out of sync with what you want and you won’t get it no matter what happens to them and usually you blame them, because you think it’s them wanting what they wanted and getting it that kept you from getting what you want, but it’s never that way.
Guest: It’s the same when you live with a person who is really negative, and you’re trying to stay positive, but they’re like a relative that you have to deal with every day…
Abraham: We know, because it feels like if they would change you would feel better because you remember being around more pleasant people and feeling more pleasant and so it seems logical that if they would be more pleasant… but feel the trap in that, the trap in that says now my happiness depends on your behavior, and I can’t control your behavior, you’re just one person, I’ve spent 30 years trying to control your behavior and I’m still not getting there. I’m powerless, I guess, I’m powerless to be happy because my happiness depends on your behavior, and you’re stubborn, and you won’t change, so I have no power.
But when you discover that you have the power to ignore them, you have the power to find the positive aspects in them, you have the power to focus upon the parts of them that you adore, you have the power to focus on other things… Do you know the majority of people that we hear struggling over something like living with someone who is negative… the majority of their conflict and discord happens when they’re not even with that person? They’re just remembering what happened yesterday, and what happened the day before, and they’re worried what’s going to happen when they get home. They have ample opportunity to focus on other things, but they don’t do it because they’ve trained themselves into their vibrational habits by being sloppy in their thinking and just vibrating in response to what they’re observing.
So, the way you train yourself back into alignment – did you hear us when we said that your singular work is to bring you into alignment with You? It’s not to bring you into alignment with the ornery bugger you’re living with. It’s not to bring you into alignment with the Republicans that you disagree with or the Democrats that you disagree with. In other words, if you think that you’ve got to get alignment like that, can you imagine how long you’re going to have to wait? Do you see how unlikely that is, you see?
But when you really get it that your happiness depends only on your alignment, and so you just play with different subjects, and you play with different sentences, and you play with different thoughts and you feel yourself into alignment which means you feel for the soothing relief of releasing resistance… Now you discover that you could live anywhere, with anyone and you could find vibrational alignment with Well Being and in the moment that you do that, the Universe has to give you still better circumstances.
What goes wrong with so many is that they say, I demand better circumstances so I can feel better, and we say the Universe does not hear your demand, the Universe only hears your vibration.
So you say, “what does that mean?” We say it means you’ve got to achieve a vibration that aligns with better circumstances before they can be received by you. Oh, that’s different, isn’t it? I have to feel good about what I haven’t got, before I get it? Yeah. I have to feel prosperous before prosperity can come to me? I have to feel healthy before health can be mine? I have to feel loved before someone can love me?
You mean, I can’t be paranoid and people flock to me and say, “Oh, you poor, paranoid thing. Let me just shower you with my love until you get over your paranoia.” (Audience laughter.) You ever had a paranoid friend? They’re hard to love, aren’t they? They offer a vibration that defies your love. You can’t do enough. Their vibration is so far in a different place, you cannot do enough to make them feel it. It’s an inside job every single time, you see.
So that’s why, as we come back around to your first and very powerful question, some of those people that you long to help, are not help-able from where you stand. And if you believe that you are the savior that came to help them all, then that means you’ve got to be able to adjust your vibration right up to the edge of where they are in order to lead them to the next place. And we don’t know very many who can effectively adjust their vibration without becoming part of the vibration they have adjusted to.
And yet, if you’re up here enjoying happiness and health and well-being and they’re down there in despair and poverty and destructive pattern, there’s a big vibrational range, and there have been so many who have wanted so much to help them that couldn’t figure out how to bridge that gap, and it’s because you are asking the impossible: you ask yourself to quantum leap to where they are, which you can’t do.
A lot of you do it over a period of time though – started out in a very joyful place and through the years, you adjusted yourself to be as miserable with the most miserable of them. And then you join together in groups, and you say, with great piety and great virtue, “We are the chosen ones. We have suffered ourselves into the place God wants us to be.”
And we say if that were true, you’d be feeling pretty good right now. When you’re in alignment with that which is Source, you feel the radiance of that which is Source flowing through you.
Guest: I think I heard you say one time that one of the ways that Jesus healed was by not joining in the vibration of the illness.
Abraham: Wouldn’t have been possible for him to heal if he joined in the vibration of sickness. He maintained his knowledge of Well-Being, you see. And with practice, you all can, too. With practice, in the time that you’re not with the cantankerous one, as you practice the memory of what felt good or as you look for the positive aspects, and you activate within yourself, again and again and again and again, good feeling things about anyone or anything…
Now, that Universe or that person has to show you (It is law.) has to show you more of what you’ve activated within you. So if somebody is showing you their ornery side on a pretty regular basis, you got their ornery side activated in you. And you say, “Well sure I do, they show me their ornery side all the time. How could it not be activated within me?”
And we say: Oh you poor, powerless being. Are you saying to us that you only have the ability to observe What Is? Are you not a Deliberate Creator? Can you not adjust your own vibration? When you turn on the radio in a hotel room, do you just leave it on that station, whoever was there last set the station? You say, “It’s been chosen. It’s just the way that it is.” Or do you take your life in your own hands and adjust the vibrational frequency until it pleases you? This is the same thing, you see.
Guest: Thank you.
Abraham: Yes, indeed.